Why all-girls?


 Why all-girls? 

I get asked this question often.

According to an article in the Honolulu Advertiser, the state Department of Education and the Hawaii Association of Independent Schools, "Private schools account for about 18% of the total school enrollment in Hawaii." Nationally, the proportion of students enrolled in private schools is only about 10-11%

As an Oahu parent, educator and administrator, I found there was a need amongst Oahu private and public school families for more school options for their children. With the rising costs of private schools on the island in recent years, there was even more parent need for quality education at an affordable tuition. With over 100 private schools on island, in order for a new private school to be successful, I needed to find a niche was not yet filled.

A curriculum and program that was tailored to meet the needs of each student was rare. There were only 3 all-girls school options on island. I had found a niche!

The niche was a small school setting with high quality individualized instruction for girls. Huakailani is the only non-denominational all-girls elementary school in the state with an individualized program.

Why all-girls and not all-boys?

The answer is simple, because I am a girl (female)! Only a girl (female) completely understands a girl's needs! Studies support that girls and boys learn and think differently. Parents find that large sized co-ed classes are not meeting the needs of their children. I personally experienced as a young child, instructional styles and school settings that did not meet my needs as a "girl." As an educator, I have worked with more girls than boys who would have blossomed in a single-gender setting.

The environment provided by an all-girls school can be exactly what a young girl needs in order to be successful in today's society. The all-girl classroom setting in elementary school provides the foundational knowledge, confidence and skills needed to be successful in Middle School and beyond.

The curriculum and program has been created by a female with a focus on what is best for a "girl." A perfect match!

See the list of benefits of an all-girl education for more on this topic.

What is the "cattiness" level in an all girls classroom?

A classroom of all girls? Anyone who has daughters or is a teacher has experienced "girl cattiness."

Girl cattiness = A lot of "me me me" and at the same time "it's not fair," and "everything must be the same" yet they know that there are differences, "she looked at me mean", "she talked to me in a mean way" ....

The sweetest girls can sometimes get caught saying the nastiest and sassiest things to each other when so and so is not their best friend any more!

So I get asked often doesn't the all-girl environment just ask for a elevated "cattiness" all day long?

At first I was not so sure what would happen because as a teacher I had my fair share of this cattiness amongst my female students in coed classroom. This was my first time teaching in a single gender classroom and was not completely sure how it would be with "girls only."

What I have experienced with my all-girl multiage class is wonderful! The key is the multiage... the girls are balanced out in the different stages/phases they are in. For example, a group of 10 second grade girls in the same classroom all aged 7-8 are all basically in the same stages - what aggravates or frustrates one second grader socially - frustrates the others. The result - Cat Fights!

In our multiage classroom, the ages and stages are dispersed from age 5 - 12. The result, a peaceful, calm harmonious group of girls. With most of the any minor issues occuring amongst girls in the same grade level. Interesting! The younger and older girls all help and support each other and that keeps good manners in check and bad manners out.

We have Friendship Circle twice a week where we talk about conflict resolution (how to productively resolve problems and conflicts with others) and have lessons on topics such as "manners" and " how to share" and basic social skills. Learning how to get along with others and to solve problems is just as important to learning how to read and to do math. That is why I incorporate these lessons into the Huakailani program. Social skills and socialization is so much more important to girls than boys. Girls need to talk and share their feelings. Our environment supports that need.

They all still get along great 95% of the time and you won't find that in any other classroom setting so I am fortunate for that. Lucky me! Each student although different in shape and size fits perfectly into the Huakailani Girl puzzle.

On the other side of the coin - some of you may say "Well - that's not the real world" but there is plenty of time for them to learn to deal with "the real world" later on. Kids have to grow up way too fast these days. This is elementary school and we should support our kids to be kids.

My job is to give them the skills they will need to be able to cope with and to deal with the issues and conflicts that life may present as they grow up. We do just that.