Mindfulness Techniques


I recently received this article as a subscriber to Dr. Cohen- Sandler’s eNewsletter and was pleased to find that we already do this at Huakailani.

We already incorporate such calming/mindful strategies into our school schedule on a daily basis. We call them transitional activities in the Upper School, but they are strategies that Dr. Cohen- Sandler describes in her article.  
As an educator who is interested in brain development and learning practices and strategies that help maximize brain development, I was excited to learn how these techniques not only help with stress but support brain development.
It was reassuring to know that we are on the leading-edge at our school in this area, especially for our older upper school girls who are venturing into the teen years and are equipping our girls with important life-long  skills.
Our younger Lower School students also participate in such "mindful" activities through brain gym and yoga, so it begins in Kindergarten and continues on into Grade 6 at our school. GO HUAKAILANI!

This article justifies that Huakailani is on the right track to giving our girls the skills and activities they need to be intelligent, well-adjusted, happy students now and in the years to come! This article confirms that these activities our teachers take the time to incorporate into the daily schedule, give our girls the positive tools they will need for their life-skills took box.

I look forward to sharing more as I learn about the things we can do to give our girls an advantage in this fast-moving, complex world.

Here is her article:
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From: Raising 21st Century Teens:   
Issues & Solutions
by Dr. Roni Cohen-Sandler  
clinical psychologist, author and speaker
Mindfulness Techniques:  
Benefits for Teens--and Parents

          Recently, I was discussing the topic of stress with a group of articulate high school students. After they described the pressures they were experiencing, we spoke of various effective strategies they could employ to take good care of themselves, develop healthy attitudes, and set realistic expectations. The students taught me about new online resources for improving study skills that I am now passing along to other teens.  

          As positive and empowering as this conversation was, however, the issue stirred up tense feelings. So I ended the workshop with a short, calming exercise. The girls trustingly followed my directions to sit quietly for five minutes with their eyes closed and simply concentrate on the movement of their breath. When this time had elapsed, a palpable and visible sense of serenity had filled the room. The students, their faces relaxed and smiling, seemed reluctant to leave.
                
          In my practice, as well, I am seeing that mindful awareness is helping teens, tweens, and adults to make meaningful changes in their mood, sense of well-being, and behavior. These observations are borne out by a tremendous volume of new neuroscientific research on the physiological and emotional benefits of yoga, meditation, biofeedback, and mindfulness, including:
  • Reduced stress
  • Promotion of well-being
  • Bolstered immune system
  • Increased gray matter of brain
  • Improved longevity
          It is no surprise that "Mindful Techniques" was featured on the cover of The American Psychological Association's October 2011 Monitor on Psychology. One recent study showed that after just three months of doing a s imple mental exercise such as the one I did in my workshop with high school students, there is a profound shift in how the brain allocates attention.  

          By focusing on sensations and gently, non-judgmentally letting go of whatever thoughts wander into our minds, we teach ourselves to be fully present in the moment. While open to thoughts, moods, and sensations, we don't become overwhelmed by or lost in them. Our minds are calmed and quieted. Over time, we become more adept at analyzing our own thought processes--an ability that psychiatrist Daniel J. Siegel refers to as the 7th sense or mindsight.  He talks of achieving a state of "Dual-Attention," which allows us to be aware of implicit memories so that they don't distort our awareness of the present.

          Mindfulness is a technique increasingly used to help parents approach challenging situations more effectively. Over time, mothers and fathers find that instead of behaving habitually or impulsively, developing focused attention allows them to see situations more accurately and to make better choices in how they respond to their kids. Even when dealing with impulsive and defiant children, parents find that by intentionally changing their reactions , they refrain from triggering further conflict and negative emotional experiences.
What helps in these situations? More balanced emotions, response flexibility, and more compassion for their teens as well as for themselves.  

          Teens and tweens who practice mindful techniques demonstrate similar benefits. Justine, for example, is a 17-year-old girl who made enormous strides in a relatively short period of time. When I first saw her, she was experiencing considerable anxiety, despair, self-deprecation, and symptoms of bulimia. As we worked together, she described being in a state of almost constant agitation at home, as she tensely anticipated her alcoholic mother's unpredictable volatility and hurtful verbal attacks. As Justine became better able to monitor and accept her own emotional reactions without becoming swept away by them, she could more accurately assess situations that arose.

          Once she did so, she quickly accessed healthier coping strategies. In the face of provocations, Justine became more adept at staying calm and focused rather than responding rashly.  She learned to communicate with greater clarity. Remaining in control fostered more self-acceptance. Most important, as she more astutely analyzed her thought processes, she was able to maintain love and concern for her mother while also taking more appropriate care of herself.

          Remarkably, such changes in parents and teens are long-term. Due to neuroplasticity, mindfulness and similar exercises alter the structure and functioning of even mature, adult brains. In fact, research increasingly shows that mindful awareness is effective in helping to treat attention deficit and mood disorders--and reduces or eliminates the need for medication.

          There are many different exercises that can be used to develop mindful awareness. To do the simple breathing exercise I used in the high school workshop, start with just five minutes in a quiet, private place. Focus on the flow of oxygen in and out of the nostrils or the rising and falling of the chest and abdomen. When inevitable, intrusive thoughts or feelings come to mind, gently note them and just refocus on your breathing. As comfort increases, gradually increase to 15 - 20 minutes a day.

 This practice is appropriate for tweens and teens in the family, too. In fact, many young people today are learning about and embracing yoga, meditation, and other forms of mindful awareness. Some are even being offered yoga as an option for physical education in public and independent schools. Talk with your teens and tweens about the scientifically proven, short- and long-term gains. Encourage family members to practice mindfulness, especially during times of the day that would bring everyone an immediate sense of peacefulness. This is one thing you can definitely try at home!

TOOLS TO USE


FOR GUIDED MEDITATION AND MINDFULNESS PRACTICES:   
                                                                           http://www.drdansiegel.com/resources/everyday_mindsight_tools/  

FOR FURTHER READING:

Everyday Blessings: The inner work of mindful parenting. M. Kabat-Zinn and J. Kabat-Zinn, 1997, Hyperion.

Parenting from the Inside Out: How a deeper self-understanding can help you raise children who thrive, by Daniel J. Siegel, MD, and Mary Harzell, M.Ed., 2004, Tarcher.

ONLINE MINDFULNESS COMMUNITY:   
  

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A classroom of all girls? Anyone who has daughters or is a teacher has experienced "girl cattiness."

Girl cattiness = A lot of "me me me" and at the same time "it's not fair," and "everything must be the same" yet they know that there are differences, "she looked at me mean", "she talked to me in a mean way" ....

The sweetest girls can sometimes get caught saying the nastiest and sassiest things to each other when so and so is not their best friend any more!

So I get asked often doesn't the all-girl environment just ask for a elevated "cattiness" all day long?

At first I was not so sure what would happen because as a teacher I had my fair share of this cattiness amongst my female students in coed classroom. This was my first time teaching in a single gender classroom and was not completely sure how it would be with "girls only."

What I have experienced with my all-girl multiage class is wonderful! The key is the multiage... the girls are balanced out in the different stages/phases they are in. For example, a group of 10 second grade girls in the same classroom all aged 7-8 are all basically in the same stages - what aggravates or frustrates one second grader socially - frustrates the others. The result - Cat Fights!

In our multiage classroom, the ages and stages are dispersed from age 5 - 12. The result, a peaceful, calm harmonious group of girls. With most of the any minor issues occuring amongst girls in the same grade level. Interesting! The younger and older girls all help and support each other and that keeps good manners in check and bad manners out.

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They all still get along great 95% of the time and you won't find that in any other classroom setting so I am fortunate for that. Lucky me! Each student although different in shape and size fits perfectly into the Huakailani Girl puzzle.

On the other side of the coin - some of you may say "Well - that's not the real world" but there is plenty of time for them to learn to deal with "the real world" later on. Kids have to grow up way too fast these days. This is elementary school and we should support our kids to be kids.

My job is to give them the skills they will need to be able to cope with and to deal with the issues and conflicts that life may present as they grow up. We do just that.